It’s believed that there are two types of people in the world. You see it promoted everywhere around us: those who are abundant and those who lack something.
I “have” – therefore I need to grasp on to it so strong so that I don’t lose it or have it taken away from me.
I “don’t have” – therefore I need to hustle and torment myself because I’m a piece of shit until proven otherwise.
Be the source of happiness, be the source of love, be the source of wealth is as worse of an advice as those saying this is what you need to be happy, loved and wealthy.
We were made to buy into this wrong paradigm of existence, most likely from our parents, who in their turn got it from theirs all the way down to the first ancestors who believed their stone painting needed to be fancier that their neighbors to decide their value in the tribe.
There was never anything to prove. There was never anything to receive. There was never anything to give. People hunt that 10/10 long legs hottie with a Ph.D. or the guy with abs chiseled by Michaelangelo himself that also reads books and is emotionally available. And if we can’t have this we will try to be it instead. Because that’s what that shelf of self-help books behind me tells me I should do. We hunt that perfect Instagram picture. That perfect family portrait. That perfect job title. That next plane ticket to an unknown destination to somewhere else in hopes of getting lost only to “find ourselves” down the road. Whatever that means.
It’s like having a subconscious monkey brain that invents rules from outside this plane of reality of how we should feel. It’s like playing Super Mario only that you’re are actually Mario and there’s a dickhead in another dimension who is pressing buttons on how you should act and feel making you hit your head constantly against a brick wall because “Oh my God! Look a shiny coin!”
And this is where the human defect lies. We are made to believe that we are either the beginning of something or at the receiving end of it. But this fundamentally contradicts how the world works. Everything is just a moment, and you’re not more than a small speck of dust in time that began way before there was even a blueprint of you and will continue long after you’ve become stardust.
The problem with the abundant/non-abundant paradigm is the following:
- I am the source of something, therefore, people will take from me. I need to make more. I need to protect. I need to hoard it all. I need to control it so I never fall back down from my throne
- I am lacking and therefore I need to receive. Because life is not fair and it should be. My struggle is my badge of honor and none of you understand me.
That’s why the wealthy are depressed and the poor blame the rich. That’s why the beautiful are insecure and the ugly gawk at them constantly wishing they could swap places. That’s why people work 60+ hours a week so they can have that one week per year vacation picture where they are “living the life” sipping Mojitos in the Caribbean somewhere.
So how do we get around this? How do we make a shift?
There is nothing wrong with having some of the things I mentioned above. What matters is the frame of mind that it comes from. And while the frame of being the source of abundance or the effect of it will make you feel like you are more important than your goldfish because your ancestors crawled out of ocean sooner it will always keep you limited.
Now look at it from a different perspective. You are at neither extremes but you’re the connection between them. You are the link between abundance and non-abundance. You’re just a mere channel. A messenger. Nothing more. Everything you have/make/own/ wasn’t yours to keep in the first place and everything you receive needs to be transformed and passed forward. This way the channel never gets clogged. What creatives call inspiration is actually the process where they build things and then free up space in their minds once their job is done so that other information can take its place and lead to new things being created. When you receive something you don’t hoard it for yourself in hopes of finally crawling out of your hole into the sun, you transform it and pass it forward to someone else who also needs it.
When you stop giving your monkey brain too much importance with how you should be labelling yourself and those around you and just make sure that the channel is not clogged (because we all know how bad it stinks when it does) that’s when inspiration will hit you, that’s when problems will not seem that heavy, that’s when people will want to be with you instead of you holding on to them because you don’t want to be the only one that smells the stink.