Practice this one habit every day and you will see something amazing happening
Stop complaining, stop having opinions and stop comparing.
Everyone has an inner giant inside that is begging to be unleashed and disrupt this world. Most of us are conditioned our whole lives to ignore our giant and fit inside the system. Some are in a constant search to discover themselves. When I hear this I feel my ears bleeding. You are already everything you already need to be, but you need to feed the giant inside so that it can grow and start being an actual strong influence in your life and those around you. If you ignore it, it’s going to be weak and undeveloped.
The things that are holding you back the most are opinions. I’m not talking here about the opinion of others regarding yourself. I’m talking about your opinions of everything around and why they are holding you back from everything greater in your life.
Having an opinion means actually having a disguised judgment. One of the definitions of this noun inside the dictionary is: “a view or judgment formed about something, not necessarily based on fact or knowledge.”
I am so happy that 2015 ended. Was it just me or were there too many opinions everywhere about everything? Everyone getting offended about all kinds of situations and blowing them out of proportion. Lots of people getting offended about all these small things and then taking to social media to state their opinion. Always in a game of “me vs. them”, even when nobody asked them to join in the first place.
Just to make it clear we are talking here about day to day life and not situations where other people were put in danger or harmed.
There are unlimited ways in which you can achieve greatness in your life.Every time you judge someone, you close one of those ways in which you can achieve greatness because you are conditioning your brain to shut down when you want to break a pattern that is holding you back.
Take the following scenario:
Bob is a guy that is coding all his spare time 24/7. Sometimes he enjoys it, sometimes he doesn’t. But he has a mission bigger than how he feels. He wants to launch a product that might change the world one day. He skips a lot of parties, is socially awkward, and is lonely most of the time. Then we have Tim. He is always about meeting new people, having crazy adventures and always has a friend he can rely on during tough times.
When Bob starts describing himself to Tim, the second one starts creating an opinion: “man this guy really doesn’t have a life”. This simple judgment has created a condition inside Tim’s brain that if you work really hard for your goals and sacrifice leisure time it’s bad for you. That’s why Tim always abandons things halfway through because he never actually puts in the work, he just scratches the surface.
When Bob learns about how outgoing Tim is and the big number of friends he has, he creates this opinion: “This guy goes out too much, he invests too much in personal relationships and doesn’t actually achieve anything”. Having strong relationships is a numbers game, you need to go out there and meet people. By having this opinion, Bob conditions himself that taking leisure time and meeting people is too much of a waste. Bob feels lonely all the time and lacks social confidence.
But then everyone wants to have something that the other has. One would like to be rich and successful but also outgoing and surrounded by caring people. The moment you start judging people that work towards something you are automatically shutting down solutions that your brain might come up with in order to achieve that.
We judge 20 something-year-olds for getting married too soon and we condition our brains to say: ”tying the knot with someone else means all my freedom will vanish”. That’s why some 30-year-olds that although have lived amazing times still are lost and cannot settle because this condition is so engraved in their nervous system. On the other side, you have people who have been unhappily married for 20 years because they were too comfortable to see what else is out there, or find something better. These are the same people that in their youth were always judging their friends who would be in a new relationship every 3 months.
We want to be rich. And then we judge PewDiePie for making $7 million a year for screaming in front of a camera and posting it on YouTube. What you are basically conditioning your brain is this: “what will my friends, colleagues think of me if I post videos online, it’s too silly, my voice is awful, it’s not a real job”. So instantly for you, the possibility of making a career as a Youtube-er or anything related has been blocked in your brain. You might not even have ended up doing that but starting from that train of thought might have led you to another solution that could have improved your life.
We want to be successful. And then we judge that acquaintance we know that refused to do the 9-5 and was writing her book while being on welfare at the same time we were enjoying our new promotion. Then when she becomes the next J.K Rowling our value system is totally scrambled and we ask ourselves how come we have been doing the same thing for 5 years going nowhere while others have grown so much.
Every time you take to Facebook, Twitter, YouTube to express your frustration with something you are limiting yourself. Every time you gossip or judge what someone else is doing and their motives behind it, you are limiting yourself.
Every time you judge someone you are starving your inner giant. It is dying a little bit more inside because you are not feeding it the right way. Every day you are creating a bigger gap between who you are and your true potential.
All great people in this world were harshly judged at some moment during their lifetime because they were consistent in their practice. People now know their names. Nobody remembers the haters.
Let’s play a game. Think about the last time you judged someone or had an opinion about a certain situation. I bet you did that in the last 24 hours.
- Reverse engineer your brain by creating a calendar and track each day you pass without throwing judgment around.
- Try to maintain the habit as many days as possible.
- Every time you break the pattern you start counting again from zero.
I’ve been doing this experiment for 4 months now, the farthest I ever got was 17 days judgment free. Examples of when I broke it was when I saw this online ad of a guy selling beard oil and I thought that it is just plain useless and stupid. Then I learned that the business was worth $20 million. Or that one time I saw this really pretty woman with this short bald guy. Only to learn that they are high school sweethearts.
Start practicing nonjudgment. Even if you fail, start again from zero. You will see that being persistent with this habit will unlock your ways of thinking and release your giant onto the world to do amazing things. Each time I redo it I pass my previous score and I feel like my thoughts are being directed towards a more constructive place.
After a while drop me a message bellow and let me know how your progress is going.
I wish you the best.