I always had this idea that bugged me in the back of my head: What if the real villains are not the people we first think about?
What if there are no actual established villains?
What if all of us are the villains in each other’s lives, blinded by our own desires and schemes, fumbling around with each other’s dreams under the great amusement of a darker power characterized by greed, power or just basic struggle for survival?
I present to you the biggest group of villains that exist. I call them Time Stealers. They might look like(great actor btw) from Prince of Persia: The Sands of Time. But they also might look like me, like you, or your lover, your siblings, your boss, or your teacher.
Imagine this insane game, much like the hunger games only psychological. Everyone needs to reach a certain finish line in order to win the game, to conquer their top of the hill, whatever that might be (find true love, get money, run a business, clean the house, pass that test).
The night before going to bed you plan out your next day and go to sleep. Like in video games, every morning you wake up you have an imaginary fuel gauge that contains your limited energy and mental power for the day.
When you wake up. The timer starts. The weight of every decision you take will influence how fast your mental energy drops. And so the Time Stealers also spring into action.
Every day you set out with a plan, the time stealers will try to stop you from reaching your flow state by interrupting you with their request.
- You want to promote and be a hotshot manager one day? Come be in these 10 useless meeting I just booked in your calendar as urgent instead of actually letting your work
- You want to pass the semester and you love literature? You might be the next Shakespeare. Too bad. You can’t focus only that. You will also need to pass maths, chemistry, quantum mechanics and arm-wrestle a silver-back gorilla in the meantime
- Do you want to work on your passion of becoming a famous guitar player? Good luck trying to manage that with a college schedule, working to put yourself through college with a shitty job and daily household chores. If you are lucky will still have some mental energy to practice during the night.
- You want to drink your coffee and read your newspaper in peace? Good luck! Your cousin that you never speak to just dropped by to tell you how he doesn’t know which car to buy for himself since he got his raise. You have no idea about cars and frankly, you don’t care. So you just nod your head while blankly staring him in the eyes for 20 minutes.
Each day is a fight to use that energy gauge, that “mana” to good use. To use it for what really matters. That 20% that will bring you 80% of the results that will matter.
Each day you go to bed doing less than you could’ve because the time stealers took their part. Imagine how much you could have achieved if they left you alone?
They always take something. The question is how much?
Will they take your time with your loved ones?
Will they take your time from pursuing your dreams?
Will they take your time from continuing to learn what makes you curious?
Everyone has an energy gauge, so they know their reach is also limited and so they use you to improve their own existence (people that want to get validated even though they are a crappy teacher, people who are looking for scapegoats that can take some of their workload off of their shoulder, college tuition that chain you to a meaningless existence instead of letting you explore your true powers).
The irony in this is that you are also someone else’s time stealer.
You can learn to say NO but it’s a constant struggle to be in defense mode.
So instead of asking ourselves what we can take from around us. We should ask ourselves what can we give around us and what we need to truly focus on.
The loop never stops. But we can choose to make it a vicious one or a supportive one.
You can either you choose to be a hero or you can choose to be a villain, a time giver or a time taker.
Pretty much with this post I chose to be a villain.
Now will you be the one that breaks the loop?